Our emotions are like clothes.
We wear them, but they are not truly who we are.
The clothes, or emotions, do need to be worn and their textures thoroughly felt.
Our emotions teach us lessons.
Check out what the poet Rumi has to say about this:
The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Our emotions do not mean us any harm and will not kill us. However, if not allowed to be felt and experienced by us, which is the process whereby emotions leave the body, they can get stuck and do harm over the long-term.
As author and researcher Brene Brown clearly points out,
“We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”
Yet, how many of us know how to really handle sadness, grief, anger, etc? If you are like me, I didn’t learn those skills growing up. However, there are tons of methods to become more emotionally intelligent and more emotionally resilient. A few of my favorites include any of Brene Brown’s books, Emotional Freedom Technique at www.thetappingsolution.com, and of course, counseling helps a ton! Much love!