If sleep deprived, we eat an extra 500 calories per day. Worse than the extra calories is that sleep deprivation often has us operating from our reptilian brain… our fight, flight or freeze center. As you can imagine, this is not the best news for our relationships.
I remember as an Obstetrician and Gynecologist wanting so much to be kind and compassionate, yet not being to access those feelings after working more than 18 hours straight. Then on top of that I would beat myself up for not being kind or compassionate. What then happened, it was so painful internally that I would release those feelings of judgment onto the people who were closest to me.
This is a common pattern of behavior. Perhaps one you have experienced.
When I am feeling that I want to judge another, what I’ve learned is that I need to be honest with myself about what I need in the moment. Sometimes, I need sleep, but it is not readily available. So I acknowledge that within myself with soothing monologue. I minimize what needs to happen, so I can get to my bed as soon as physically possible.
I ask for help. In summary, I get compassionate with myself.
When we are compassionate with ourselves, then we can be compassionate with others. We really only can give to others what we know from our own experience. So the cultivation of self-compassion is necessary if we desire to be compassionate in the world.
Game on? Need help?